1. Stand Out
You have to be aware that the majority of adult personals are written the same. The one way you can catch the attention of a possible match is to be creative when you write your profile. Make sure it stands out from all of the others.  Read a few other profiles, see what other guys or girls have written, and try to write something different. Something better. Something that will catch the eye of your future love. For example, don’t write the obvious. Stating “I am a guy who likes to have fun” is not something you want to write. I mean, doesn’t everyone like to have fun? That is redundant.

2. Show, Don’t Tell
Again, use your word and be creative. Don’t state the obvious. Don’t write, for example, “My friends think I am a really funny guy.” Anyone can write that, but a guy who really is funny would be creative enough to  literally write a few sentences that are funny. Show your “audience” you sense of humor. No one cares what your “friends” think about you; you have to prove it yourself.

3. Don’t Mention Anything Negative
Think of this in terms of a resume. You would never write about all the jobs you got fired from on your resume, right? Well same goes for adult dating profiles; instead of dwelling on the negative, only list the positive, and play up the positive as much as possible (just don’t make it sound too fake).  Remember, you’re selling a product(yourself). If you were trying to sell a house, for example, you wouldn’t point out how small it is, instead you would refer to it as “cozy”. Catch my drift?

4. First Sentence = First Impression
The first few lines of your profile should give the reader a reason to continue reading; just like any great piece of literature (yes I just compared your online profile to a great work of literature).  Don’t write anything that makes you sound insecure. Even if you are a shy or insecure person, you don’t want that to come across over the internet. Instead of saying something along the lines of “I can’t believe Im actually doing this, but a couple of my friends said I should so here goes nothing”, which exudes insecurity, say something like “I used to be a volunteer firefighter, and now I’m looking to pursue my career in law but right now I’m working as a ‘insert real job here’ to pay the bills.”

5. Don’t Lie About Anything You Can’t Pull Off
It is pointless to lie about something really obvious. Don’t try to impress by lying, the truth will come out sooner or later. It’s best not to waste your time trying to be a guy or girl that you really aren’t.

6. Don’t Brag
Bragging is a huge turnoff. Confidence is sexy but cockiness is annoying. There is a fine line between the two; a very important line that you should not cross at all costs.  It is fine to mention things about yourself that make you look/sound good, but don’t do it constantly, and don’t do it in a way that makes you sound arrogant. If you know you have a few qualities about yourself that your mate is seeking, just mention them once. Mentioning them over and over is a buzz kill.

7. Use Good Photos, Not Photos That Are Too Good
It is key to include photos of yourself on your online profile. It is also key to include photos that actually look like you i.e. portrait shots, or photos of you on vacation having fun times. It is not a good idea, however to include “Myspace” photos. Images that have been tampered with to make you look like you belong on the cover of Maxim or images taken at awkward angles to make your “double chin” disappear won’t do. The photos you post must at least look like you. If you lead someone on and they are expecting you to appear differently, this can be a major turn off. Sure, looks aren’t everything, but in the world of online dating, they do matter. 

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